Why are some people respected at the first sight, while others are not taken seriously regardless of their efforts? Despite all the attempts to build relationships and demonstrate helpfulness, the latter are still not taken seriously. Let's try to figure out together what is behind such different attitudes.
Mistakes in behavior
Sacrifice
Some people are willing to compromise their interests in order to please others, but their efforts go unnoticed. When this person is offended by someone, he\she feels bad for the person who offended them and tries to find excuses for other people's actions, neglecting their own emotions. It is important to learn how to express one's personal discomfort and needs without fear.
Low self-esteem
People who suffer from low self-esteem often allow others around them to do too much: yell at them, nag them unreasonably, or humiliate them publicly. As a result, others think it is okay to do such things to this person. To counteract this, it is necessary to stop any attempts to disrespect others.
Guilt
People who experience heightened feelings of guilt tend to take undue responsibility for everything that happens around them. They tend to blame themselves for all the troubles, which is quickly noticed by others who allow themselves to blame their own mistakes on such people. In such situations, it is more appropriate to focus on finding solutions rather than blame.
Fear of saying "no"
Let's get back to an important point: voluntary sacrifices are not appreciated. If a person does not take care of themselves, no one else will. It is important to learn to say no to people when it is inconvenient, uninteresting or simply not wanted. This behavior will help avoid situations where others try to exploit your kindness.
Lack of self-interest
The manifestation of this problem is that people try to adjust to the needs and interests of others, losing their own desires. It is difficult for them to determine what can give pleasure and from the point of view of others, such people seem incapable of independent decisions and helpless.
How can this be corrected?
The first step is best to get rid of people who cause you rejection. If possible, reduce communication with them or openly demonstrate your dislike, or better completely exclude them from your life.
If in your environment there are people who suddenly stopped respecting you, and you would like to keep good relations with them, try to have a frank conversation, finding out the reasons for their behavior towards you. Remember that everyone has the right to demand respect for themselves, and you should treat others with respect.
