Many scientists have sought to create a psychological classification of personality archetypes. The psychologist G. Eysenck made his contribution in this direction of psychology. He proposed a table of temperaments with key concepts: stability-unstability and introversion-extroversion.
For example, a sanguine person is depicted as a stable extrovert and a melancholic person as an unstable introvert. Before discussing the different temperaments, it is important to note that there are no absolutely pure representatives of sanguine, choleric, melancholic and phlegmatic types. People have a multifaceted nature, which makes the exact definition of the perfect couple impossible. To strengthen this understanding, we recommend to read a collection of short stories by Ivan Bunin "Dark Alleys".
What kinds of temperaments are there?
- Choleric-phlegmatic. This pair achieves a balance of activity, a vigor choleric and a calm, methodical phlegmatic.
- A similar dynamic is seen between a sanguine and a melancholic. A melancholic is supported by a sanguine, who, in turn, is able to smooth out the peak activity of their partner, achieving harmony.
In such couples there are usually no problems with leadership, as there is a clear division of roles between an active and a passive temperament. The passive partner provides an opportunity for the active one to show themselves, in turn, the active does not disturb the peace of the passive.
Let's consider a more complex couple:
- A sanguine and a choleric often have difficulties in their life together because of the conflict in leadership. Both partners demonstrate high activity and claim a dominant role.
- Diametrically opposite situation is observed between the union of a melancholic and a phlegmatic. Both partners are very inert and passive, without external energetic nourishment this can lead to boredom.
The most problematic combinations are sanguine with phlegmatic and choleric with melancholic. Uncertainty in attitudes and character traits can lead to frequent arguments and conflicts, from which both sides will suffer.
It is important to note that the "ideal" combination of temperaments does not guarantee a strong relationship. It is still worth taking into account the upbringing, values, and habits of a person. Nevertheless, any couple has a chance for a successful and harmonious relationship, because love always requires change.
